Funerals are more commonly now a real celebration of life. A tribute to the deceased’s life instead of mourning their death. I try to ensure the funerals I write and conduct rejoice in memories of the triumphs, the relationships, the best and happy times spent with their loved one. The tone is usually happy rather than mournful, celebratory instead of sombre.
And at these sorts of ‘Celebration of Life’, you’re more likely to hear Monty Python’s Always Look On The Bright Side of Life, the most popular song played at UK funerals – than Verdi’s Requiem.
Below is a video of a ‘joke’ the deceased played on his family and friends at his graveside. Apologises for the swearing! He said he wanted everyone to go away from his funeral with a smile on their faces. My thoughts exactly!
Anyone who has tied the knot will tell you it’s scary how quickly the big day comes around. One minute, time seems to be on your side, and the next, your caterer is firming up vegetarian numbers, you are finalising your vows with your Celebrant and also having your final wedding dress fitting! If you’re getting married in 2020 and you have yet to settle on your theme, maybe think about the wedding colours that are trending for 2020. The five pretty colours are:
Emerald, Lemon, Pink, Blush and Deep Berry
But of course, it’s your day so go with whatever theme and colour feels right for you!
Sure, the flowers may be gone, but there is still a lot to love about the season. What we lose in flowers, we more than gain in fruits.
We probably have lots of happy memories about the summer that’s gone. We may have done a lot of socialising over those summer months. The weather is normally good (!?) and conducive to getting together with family and friends. The longer days gave us more possibilities to do ‘stuff’ and get out and about. We’ve been on holiday, away from the more possibly mundane aspects of our lives. A break from reality. Which can be good and bad.
We may mourn the passing of summer. Time certainly marches on. We must see the joy in all the seasons, even though we now need to wear raincoats and warm jumpers. So please look to the joy in this equally bountiful season. Think of opportunities to reflect on sunny, happy times. Be thankful for those and the warm sun. The refreshing sea. Autumn gives us a chance to be more cosy and stay close to those we love.
There is a quote that says, “Time is free, but it is priceless. You can’t own it, but you can use it. You can’t keep it, but you can spend it. Once you have lost it, you can never get it back.”
I love Autumn because I think about the last few months that were so different to where we are now. It’s not quite as cold and dark as winter… yet!
“Everyone must take time to sit and watch the leaves turn.”