I came across this poem the other day, having never seen it before. It is quite simple but insightful I think. I am looking foward to sharing it with couples when I meet them to discuss their wedding celebrations.

Maybe…We are supposed to meet the wrong people before meeting the right one so that, when we finally meet the right person, we will know how to be grateful for that gift

Maybe…it is true that we don’t know what we have got until we lose it, but it is also true that we don’t know what we have been missing until it arrives

Maybe…the happiest of people don’t necessarily have the best of everything; they just make the most of everything that comes along their way

Maybe…the best kind of love is the kind you can sit on a sofa together and never say a word, and then walk away feeling like it was the best conversation you’ve ever had

Maybe…you shouldn’t go for looks; they can deceive. Don’t go for wealth; even that fades away. Go for someone who makes you smile, because it takes only a smile to make a dark day seem bright.

Maybe…you should hope for enough happiness to make you sweet, enough trials to make you strong, enough sorrow to keep you human, and enough hope to make you happy

Maybe… Love is not about finding the perfect person, it’s about learning to see an imperfect person perfectly.

A A Milne – a favourite source of inspiration

When I am thinking about putting together a ceremony, a celebration, for my clients, I am sometimes drawn to the works of A A Milne. Milne was unique as a writer, because while others wrote about the harsh realities of life, Milne created a whimsical reality full of friendship and laughter. His vast array of poems, short stories and books are a wonderful source of inspiration for all occasions, be they weddings, funerals or baby naming ceremonies. I particulary like ‘The End’ as it’s about growing up. This poem definitely makes me want to be six forever. Maybe a little part of me still is!
The End
When I was One,
I had just begun.
When I was Two,
I was nearly new.
When I was Three,
I was hardly Me.
When I was Four,
I was not much more.
When I was Five,
I was just alive.
But now I am Six, I’m as clever as clever.
So I think I’ll be Six now for ever and ever.

It’s OK to laugh at funerals

Funerals are more commonly now a real celebration of life. A tribute to the deceased’s life instead of mourning their death. I try to ensure the funerals I write and conduct rejoice in memories of the triumphs, the relationships, the best and happy times spent with their loved one. The tone is usually happy rather than mournful, celebratory instead of sombre.

And at these sorts of ‘Celebration of Life’, you’re more likely to hear Monty Python’s Always Look On The Bright Side of Life, the most popular song played at UK funerals – than Verdi’s Requiem.

Below is a video of a ‘joke’ the deceased played on his family and friends at his graveside. Apologises for the swearing! He said he wanted everyone to go away from his funeral with a smile on their faces. My thoughts exactly!

Wedding Colours already trending for 2020

Anyone who has tied the knot will tell you it’s scary how quickly the big day comes around. One minute, time seems to be on your side, and the next, your caterer is firming up vegetarian numbers, you are finalising your vows with your Celebrant and also having your final wedding dress fitting! If you’re getting married in 2020 and you have yet to settle on your theme, maybe think about the wedding colours that are trending for 2020. The five pretty colours are:

Emerald, Lemon, Pink, Blush and Deep Berry

But of course, it’s your day so go with whatever theme and colour feels right for you!

Autumn is here…my thoughts….

Sure, the flowers may be gone, but there is still a lot to love about the season.  What we lose in flowers, we more than gain in fruits.

We probably have lots of happy memories about the summer that’s gone. We may have done a lot of socialising over those summer months. The weather is normally good (!?) and conducive to getting together with family and friends. The longer days gave us more possibilities to do ‘stuff’ and get out and about. We’ve been on holiday, away from the more possibly mundane aspects of our lives. A break from reality. Which can be good and bad.

We may mourn the passing of summer. Time certainly marches on. We must see the joy in all the seasons, even though we now need to wear raincoats and warm jumpers. So please look to the joy in this equally bountiful season. Think of opportunities to reflect on sunny, happy times. Be thankful for those and the warm sun. The refreshing sea. Autumn gives us a chance to be more cosy and stay close to those we love.

There is a quote that says, “Time is free, but it is priceless. You can’t own it, but you can use it. You can’t keep it, but you can spend it. Once you have lost it, you can never get it back.”

I love Autumn because  I think about the last few months that were so different to where we are now. It’s not quite as cold and dark as winter… yet!

“Everyone must take time to sit and watch the leaves turn.”